Relationship Counselling & Couples Therapy
Most couples experience distress and unhappiness at some point in their relationship. Relationship Counselling can help you to better understand your feelings, make sense of them and use them to move on.
If you can't talk to each other... talk to me.
I believe that, as human beings, we are fragile, and as such we are vulnerable to emotional pain and distress. Most of us will experience emotionally difficult times at some point in our lives which might feel too overwhelming to deal and cope with ourselves. As a couples counsellor and sex therapist I am committed to help you resolve your issues and improve your quality of life.
Relationship Counselling can help couples and individuals to open up communication between both partners so that they can better understand underlying issues to resolve the difficulties they are experiencing and find an agreed way forward. Relationship problems can be complicated and sometimes they stem from challenges you may have experienced in your childhood. Relationship therapy can be helpful in this situation for both individuals and couples, as it looks at what lies behind current difficulties, paying attention both to the past and the present in order to bring about change.
Some reasons why couples and individuals come to see me
- Breakdown in communication
- Frequent arguing
- An affair or break of trust
- Conflict over children
- The birth of a new baby
- The stress of moving home
- Moving into retirement
- Financial problems affecting the relationship
- Loss of sexual intimacy and desire
Relationship Counselling and Psychosexual Therapy are evidence-based treatment methods, proven to be effective in helping couples and individuals lower their levels of stress, anxiety and dissatisfaction.
I provide a calm and confidential space where you can safely explore and share your feelings. As the counselling process continues feelings of shame, distrust and anger tend to diminish and understanding and communication in the relationship improves. With trust and emotional connection between you and your partner re-established, you can feel safe to approach each other again and enjoy sexual intimacy.
Counselling for family life
Starting a family can bring underlying issues in the couple relationship to the surface, and cause significant tension and distress between partners; new roles and responsibilities need to be negotiated and agreed on. Juggling work and children keeps us busy throughout many years of our lives and gradually you might begin to feel disconnected from your partner, or lonely in your relationship.
As communication breaks down, one partner - or both - might start an affair, adding significant distress to the relationship. At some point, you may be left wondering whether to stay in the relationship. Counselling can help you to open up communication again between you and your partner and allow for delicate issues to be explored, and the split-off aspects of your lives to be reintegrated into the relationship.
Similarly, it is only when kids have “flown the nest” that we realise we need to define ourselves and our relationship anew. You may realise you have lost contact with yourself or your partner, and that your intimate life has become non-existent.
Counselling can help you define new goals as individuals and as a couple. Reclaiming common ground will help you reconnect and allow intimacy to be part of your lives again.
Counselling for separation
Should your relationship have come to an end and you have decided to separate I can help you through this emotionally difficult time, working towards an ending that allows you to both restore peace of mind and confidently move on.
When there are children involved in a separation it is particularly important for you as parents to remain emotionally available for them: you can separate from your partner, but you can't separate from your children. I can help you manage the challenges when transitioning from parenting as a couple to parenting as separated parents.
Counselling through hormonal changes
Going through significant hormonal changes in the menopause or andropause, we are faced with new challenges on a physical and emotional level. You may experience bodily changes and feel insecure about yourself/as a partner, your sexuality and attractiveness. Couples counselling and sex therapy can help you experience a satisfying relationship again, and find new approaches to sexuality.
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