What to expect when attending Relationship Counselling & Psychosexual Therapy
Couples often wait until very late in the game to seek intervention and by then, one or both may have decided to call it quits. ~ Benson et. al., Common Principles of Couple Therapy
How often and where?
The usual arrangement is that you would attend therapy weekly at my Epping practice.
I offer some flexibility to fit around work and family commitments and should you - for reasons of health, family or privacy - find it too difficult to come to my practice, I offer some home visits. I also provide Skype Counselling.
There is strong evidence for the effectiveness of Skype counselling as an alternative to face-to-face work. Here are a few scenarios where online counselling may be useful:
- You might live in an area of the UK or part of the world where couple counselling or sex therapy is simply unavailable, or too much travelling is involved to get to your therapist's practice.
- You may live in an area where English is not the native language, or you feel uncomfortable working with a local therapist.
- As professional life has significantly changed, many of us are confronted with increased demands on our time. One half of a couple or both partners might regularly spend weeks or months away from home, making it difficult to start or continue counselling.
Wherever you are, Skype Counselling allows you to work with your therapist from the comfort of your own location and attend regular weekly sessions. As a Skype counsellor I work with clients across the UK and from all parts of the world.
Can I come on my own?
If you are in a relationship it is best if you come together for the first session. However, if you prefer you can attend individually at first and we can discuss how you feel about bringing your partner at a future time.
The Initial Consultation
In our first session together we clarify what you want from attending therapy, and how you view what is currently happening in your relationship. At the end I will give you my thoughts and we'll discuss how to take things forward, to achieve the best possible results.
The Initial Consultation is an overall assessment of your relationship, family history and what you want to work on; it is crucial for any further decision on appropriateness of treatment, method used and prospect of success. The first session often has a therapeutic effect of its own, as you gain first insights into your relationship issues.
Reasons why couples might think they do not need Counselling
- Being afraid the therapist might judge them
- Being worried that their partner might blame them for their problems
- Only one half of the couple believing they need help
- Being worried that counselling could be a painful experience
- Believing there are no issues in the relationship and couples therapy isn’t necessary